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Helen Reynolds, June 9 2021

Is Love the key to Spiritual Growth?

You’re brought up to get a good education, get a good job, buy a house, get a better job, buy another house, and somewhere in amongst all of that fall in love, get married, have kids and love them like your life depends on it, whilst buying more houses, keeping your job and building your retirement portfolio.

Where do you fit love in?  Fortunately, love is the glue that holds life together, even if it doesn't feel like it when the hustle and bustle of daily life takes over and leaves love in the recesses of your mind.

The reason that love is the glue that holds everything together is because Love is Spirit and Spirit is Love.   In the More Love Podcast interviews Dr Eben Alexander says that we must discover "that loving connection that we share with the universe and with others” (listen to the interview here). 

But while we are going about our busy lives we don't feel as though Love is gluing everything together and most people wouldn't say they feel spiritual.  The reason is quite simple.  We have been taught a conditional kind of love.  You'll be very familiar with it and see it everywhere once you start to look.  It's the "I will love you if you do/have/be (insert the condition)".  In contrast, true Love or Spirit is unconditional. 

The unconditional love that Anne experienced in her compelling love story (this episode of More Love Podcast) is the reason she has been sharing her story for the last 18 years.  She wants everyone to know "how much they are loved, it is a love beyond…there are no conditions with it, it is just pure love."

What if it was different.  What if we knew our spiritual connection to all that is, what if we felt Love gluing our lives in place.  Then we would need to know that Love and our spiritual strength depended on our relationship with ourselves.  Yes, that modern term 'self love', but not in its modern meaning - not in a new clothes, massages, candles and long baths kind of way.  

What self love really means is being sensitive to our emotions without judging our emotions.  Yes, it's much easier said than done!   We judge because we are, more often than not, practicing conditional love or conditional judgement of our emotions.  Don't believe me.....well have you ever thought to yourself, "I will feel good when (insert the condition of feeling good)".

Nearly all of us were taught from a young age that our emotions (which, by the way, gauge our spiritual connection) don’t matter and that we should get over them and get on with building our material life, with the exception of falling in love along the way, having children and teaching them to do the same.

The good news is that we can unlearn if we are willing to.  Don't beat up on yourself for being conditional, just decide whether or not you want to become more unconditional to find your experience of Love, of your Spiritual Self. 


-Image by Tú Anh from Pixabay-

Written by

Helen Reynolds

Older Felt sporting spirit but not your own?
Newer Fly through Life (with spiritual strength).