"Our past does not equal our future"
That Family Constellations Work Dissolved Hidden Dynamics In My Family
This More Love Podcast episode with Rob Foster delves into the his work as a Systemic and Family Constellation counselor. I found Family Constellation work quite hard to explain/understand until Rob worked through an aspect of my family constellation.
As I explained one side of my family tree to Rob, I mentioned that my Grandmother had lost a brother at a young age in a horse riding accident. Rob and I were able to 'map' my family constellation and work through the entanglements that that loss of life had left.
Now, I'm not saying that family constellation work is only relevant when there's been death of family member, rather, I'm using my family as the example to help explain what his work does. So what did it do? Rob, through the family constellation he created for my family, was able to tap into negative patterns that had been held in our family tree that none of us could see or explain. Hidden patterns that were evident in the family dynamic but had become normalised and thus invisible or hidden to us.
"Family and Systemic Constellations is a healing modality which facilitates fast and long lasting change"
The hidden family dynamic...
Rob was also able to 'map' how the burden of the grief over that boy's death had been transferred down through the generations and was able to free me of the burden I had 'agreed' to carry. After the session I felt lighter, freer and glad for my session. Interestingly, the individual session I had was able to work through the family constellation process even though it was just me - thanks to the ultimate connectedness that we all exist within!
"We are all connected in this field of consciousness - it's through this fundamental truth that life can heal itself"
We also talked about mental health, consciousness and the challenges of spiritual journey. We talked about how to stay safe as you grow and explore your spiritual self. Rob was also very specific in advising us all that if we want to do systemic and family constellation work that we must find a qualified professional to work with. We also were very specific that this work does not increase traumatic stress, rather through loving consciousness the family constellations work releases trauma effortlessly.
"Life is malleable. Nothing is fixed. It's only fixed through out loyalties and entanglements."